Inner Child

Hello All,

I was wondering if any of you do a behavior you don’t like and then keep repeating it over and over and wonder why you keep doing it? I also find myself in this trap. About a year ago I started seeing a counselor, that has helped me tremendously. She introduced me to inner child work. A lot of you may be wondering what inner child work is. I can help answer that question. So, basically all throughout your childhood you have events that happen to you that shape who you are for better or worse. So let’s say you tell someone “No” to something that you didn’t want to do and they respond by yelling at you. Cut to you as an adult and every time you go to tell someone “No” you end up people pleasing because of that one experience where you were yelled at for saying “No.” Then, you say you are going to quit people pleasing, but you find yourself doing it again and again. Why? Because you are “stuck” at that first age where you had that bad experience of saying “No.” So you must go back and talk to your inner child and tell him or her that it is okay to say “No” now and he or she used people pleasing as a defense mechanism to keep from being yelled at. Now you as an adult know of better ways to communicate with people and you know that being around people who yell at you for saying “No” are probably people you don’t want to be around in the first place. You may have to do this exercise several times for it to work. You can access your inner child through a meditation and there are several meditations on YouTube to get you started. Hopefully if you are feeling “stuck” this will help you to get “unstuck.” Hopefully this will help you to undo old patterns.

Keep Moving Forward,

Destiny