Changes/Make-up

Hello All! So, if you are reading and following the blog, you know by now I do three blog posts a week. However, I have a full-time job and the demands of my job, plus trying to keep up with three blog posts a week are getting to be too much and too time consuming. So, I will be cutting down to one blog post a week. Now that doesn't mean that freebies and (hopefully) thought provoking questions are out of the question. I will find a way to combine all of these into one blog post, rather than three seperate ones. Now, there may not be freebies added on every blog post, but if a freebie idea comes to me and a blog topic lends itself to it, then I will gladly post a freebie for you to sign up for, when you sign up for the blog. Anyway, now that that's out of the way, I can start on this week's blog post. Now, onto my post for the week. So, the last couple of days I have been doing a lot of thinking about make-up. I tend to have a love-hate relationship with make-up. My stance on it usually tends to change, depending on whether or not I am trying to convince myself if I should use it or not. I'll go through periods where I'll be for make-up because not putting it on means you are "not confident" and using shows you "don't care." And more often than not I'll feel like "what is the point of make-up," "why do women have to wear it and men don't," and how come everyone else is so good at it and mine looks like crap!?" The other day I was leaning towards the latter arguement rather than the former and it got me to thinking, and I hope it will get you to thinking to and I hope that it will start a conversation and some people will comment or have an opinion on this one way or the other. I am going to address some of the questions and thoughts I have about make-up and I am wondering if any of you feel the same way? The first thought I want to address is "why does make-up make me feel ugly?" Do any of y'all feel this way? Please comment below and tell me I am not the only one! For the longest time I did not wear make-up on a regular basis and would only wear it for special occasions. Now, I have a position, that requires me to look professional and while make-up is not a required part of the dress-code, in my mind, if I define professional dress, make-up is included as part of the look. So, now I wear make-up everyday and give my face a break on weekends. But everyday, when I put on my foundation I am now highly aware of how red my skin n is and how much I need to cover up the redness/acne on my skin. Thus, making me fell as if my regular skin is ugly. I looked to the Internet to see if I could find some answers and also to confirm that I am not the only one that feels this way. Most women I know do not feel this way and a few women on the forums where other women have asked this very question have said in a nutshell "I love make-up, what's not to love!?" But still others feel the same way I do and a lot of people respond by saying it is because you are insecure on the inside and have not accepted your body/skin for the way that it is. Which makes a lot of sense to me. Others have said that maybe you are not doing it right, which for me is a high possibility. And some others have said that covering up has made you aware of the flaws on your skin, that you need to cover up. Which I feel is true for me also. I feel it is a combination of all three of these for me. So, tell me, is it like this for you? Surely I cannot be the only one that feels this way. Share your thoughts in the comments below. The next thought I have is "what is the point of make-up?" I mean seriously, what is the actual point!? Can someone help me out with this one, because as far as I'm concerned, there is no point. A lot of women like to argue that "you'll never find a boyfriend if you don't wear any make-up!" But I call BS! Men have stated over and over again, that they much prefer us without make-up, so what's your next excuse? I mean who invented make-up in the first place? Seriously!? Why do we need this stuff. I think I missed the day in girl school when they explained the purpose of make-up because I have absolutely zero understanding of what it is actually for and what are you accomplishing by putting it on? A lot of women also argue the point that it is supposed to accentuate your features, but this point is lost on me as well, due to the fact, as I stated above it only serves the purpose of making me feel ugly. Can someone explain this to me!? My next question is a question that I am sure has been on the minds of women for years: "Why do women have to wear it and men don't?" This seems like a very sexist double-standard that our society has come to. I think plain and simple - if men don't have to wear make-up to look "pretty," then neither should women. End of story. And finally, "why does mine look like crap and everyone else's looks great?" Again, I missed the day in girl school where they taught you how to put on make-up. Without fail, everytime I put on my foundation it looks cakey. Why? It doesn't matter what I do either. Whether I apply with a brush, sponge or my fingers, it always looks cakey. NO. MATTER. WHAT! My eye shadow always looks like an eight year old put it on and my lipstick looks like I got make-up lessons from an old granny! But yet I see all of these make-up tutorials and their make-up looks flawless, EVERY. SINGLE. TIME! Why!? Help! What am I doing wrong? How did you learn how to do make-up? Any tips and tricks anyone wants to give up? Drop me a comment below and let me know! Well this has been a rather long post. Hopefully it was an interesting post and made you think. Am I the only one that has these problems? Am I the only one that feels this way about make-up. Seriously guys! Let me know! Clueless with Make-Up, Destiny